Deceit
Quotes - Anything is better than lies and deceit!
“It's
discouraging to think how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by
deceit.”
―
Noël Coward, Blithe Spirit
“Anything
is better than lies and deceit!”
―
Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina
“Love
is a verb, not a noun. It is active. Love is not just feelings of passion and
romance. It is behavior. If a man lies to you, he is behaving badly and
unlovingly toward you. He is disrespecting you and your relationship. The words
“I love you” are not enough to make up for that. Don’t kid yourself that they
are.”
―
Susan Forward, When Your Lover Is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception and
Betrayal
“I
am convinced that human life is filled with many pure, happy, serene examples
of insincerity, truly splendid of their kind-of people deceiving one another
without (strangely enough) any wounds being inflicted, of people who seem
unaware even that they are deceiving one another.”
―
Osamu Dazai, No Longer Human
“God
hath given you one face, and you make yourself another.”
―
Shakespeare, Hamlet
“When
one with honeyed words but evil mind
Persuades
the mob, great woes befall the state.”
― Euripides,
Orestes
“The
only thing more frustrating than slanderers is those foolish enough to listen
to them.”
―
Criss Jami, Killosophy
“The
devil can cite Scripture for his purpose.
An
evil soul producing holy witness
Is
like a villain with a smiling cheek,
A
goodly apple rotten at the heart.
O,
what a goodly outside falsehood hath!”
―
William Shakespeare, The Merchant of Venice
“MAKING
THE LIE MAKE SENSE:
When
denial (his or ours) can no longer hold and we finally have to admit to
ourselves that we’ve been lied to, we search frantically for ways to keep it
from disrupting our lives. So we rationalize. We find “good reasons” to justify
his lying, just as he almost always accompanies his confessions with “good
reasons” for his lies. He tells us he only lied because…. We tell ourselves he
only lied because…. We make excuses for him: The lying wasn’t
significant/Everybody lies/He’s only human/I have no right to judge him.
Allowing
the lies to register in our consciousness means having to make room for any
number of frightening possibilities:
•
He’s not the man I thought he was.
•
The relationship has spun out of control and I don’t know
what
to do
•
The relationship may be over.
Most
women will do almost anything to avoid having to face these truths. Even if we
yell and scream at him when we discover that he’s lied to us, once the dust
settles, most of us will opt for the comforting territory of rationalization.
In fact, many of us are willing to rewire our senses, short-circuit our
instincts and intelligence, and accept the seductive comfort of self-delusion.”
―
Susan Forward, When Your Lover Is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception and
Betrayal
“Nothing
is more deceitful," said Darcy, "than the appearance of humility. It
is often only carelessness of opinion, and sometimes an indirect boast.”
―
Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice
“When
your lover is a liar, you and he have a lot in common, you're both lying to
you!”
―
Susan Forward, When Your Lover Is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception and
Betrayal
“You
must remember, my dear lady, the most important rule of any successful
illusion: First, the people must want to believe in it.”
―
Libba Bray, The Sweet Far Thing
“In
the land of the blind, the one-eyed man is king.”
―
Desiderius Erasmus
“To
find out if she really loved me, I hooked her up to a lie detector. And just as
I suspected, my machine was broken.
”
―
Dark Jar Tin Zoo, Love Quotes for the Ages. Specifically Ages 19-91.
“A
rumor is a social cancer: it is difficult to contain and it rots the brains of
the masses. However, the real danger is that so many people find rumors
enjoyable. That part causes the infection. And in such cases when a rumor is
only partially made of truth, it is difficult to pinpoint exactly where the
information may have gone wrong. It is passed on and on until some brave soul
questions its validity; that brave soul refuses to bite the apple and let the
apple eat him. Forced to start from scratch for the sake of purity and truth,
that brave soul, figuratively speaking, fully amputates the information in
order to protect his personal judgment. In other words, his ignorance is to be
valued more than the lie believed to be true.”
―
Criss Jami, Killosophy
“Those
who plead their cause in the absence of an opponent can invent to their heart's
content, can pontificate without taking into account the opposite point of view
and keep the best arguments for themselves, for aggressors are always quick to
attack those who have no means of defence.”
―
Christine de Pizan, Der Sendbrief vom Liebesgott / The Letter of the God of
Love
“Never
judge someone by their relatives.”
―
Charles Martin, Chasing Fireflies
“youth
is easily deceived because it is quick to hope.”
―
Aristotle
“What
man ever openly apologizes for slander? It is not so much a feeling of slander
as it is that of a massive lie, a misdeed not only to the slandered but also to
those manipulated in the process. He has made them all, every one, his enemies,
thereupon he is so overwhelmed with guilt that he will deny it until his
grave.”
―
Criss Jami, Killosophy
“She
was a ray of sunshine, a warm summer rain, a bright fire on a cold winter’s
day, and now she could be dead because she had tried to save the man she
loved.”
―
Grace Willows
“Reality
Check
His
lying is not contigent on who you are or what you do. His lying is not your
fault. Lying is his choice and his problem, and if he makes that choice with
you, he will make it with any other woman he’s with. That doesn’t mean you’re
an angel and he’s the devil. It does mean that if he doesn’t like certain
things about you, he has many ways to address them besides lying. If there are
sexual problems between you, there are many resources available to help you.
Nothing can change until you hold him responsible and accountable for lying and
stop blaming yourself.
The
lies we tell ourselves to keep from seeing the truth about our lovers don’t
feel like lies. They feel comfortable, familiar, and true. We repeat them like
a mantra and cling to them like security blankets, hoping to calm ourselves and
regain our sense that the world works the way we believe it ought to.
Self-lies
are false friends we look to for comfort and protection—and for a short time
they may make us feel better. But we can only keep the truth at bay for so
long. Our self-lies can’t erase his lies, and as we’ll see, the longer we try
to pretend they can, the more we deepen the hurt.”
―
Susan Forward
