Sex
Quotes - The porn films are not about sex
“We
want different things. Men want to have sex with a woman. Then they want to
have sex with another woman. And then another. Then they want to eat cornflakes
and sleep for a while, and then they want to have sex with another woman, and
another, until they die. Women,’ and I thought I’d better pick my words
carefully when describing a gender I didn’t belong to, ‘want a relationship.
They may not get it, or they may sleep with a lot of men before they do get it,
but ultimately that’s what they want. That’s the goal. Men do not have goals.
Natural ones. So they invent them, and put them at either end of a football
pitch. And then they invent football. Or they pick fights, or try and get rich,
or start wars, or come up with any number of daft bloody things to make up for
the fact that they have no real goals.’
‘Bollocks,’
said Ronnie.
‘That,
of course, is the other main difference.”
―
Hugh Laurie, The Gun Seller
“I
figured I had kept her from being too depressed after fucking--it's hard for a
girl with any force in her and any brains to accept the whole thing of fucking,
of being fucked without trying to turn it on its end, so that she does some
fucking, or some fucking up; I mean, the mere power of arousing the man so he
wants to fuck isn't enough; she wants him to be willing to die in order to
fuck. There's a kind of strain or intensity women are bred for, as beasts, for
childbearing when childbearing might kill them, and child rearing when the
child might die at any moment: it's in women to live under that danger, with
that risk, that close to tragedy, with that constant taut or casual courage.
They need death and nobility near. To be fucked when there's no drama inherent
in it, when you're not going to rise to a level of nobility and courage forever
denied the male, is to be cut off from what is inherently female, bestially
speaking.”
―
Harold Brodkey
“Yes,
I do believe in something. I believe in being warm-hearted. I
believe
especially in being warm-hearted in love, in fucking with a
warm
heart. I believe if men could fuck with warm hearts, and the women
take
it warm-heartedly, everything would come all right. It's all this
cold-hearted
fucking that is death and idiocy.”
―
D.H. Lawrence
“The
porn films are not about sex. Sex is airbrushed and digitally washed out of the
films. There is no acting because none of the women are permitted to have what
amounts to a personality. The one emotion they are allowed to display is an
unquenchable desire to satisfy men, especially if that desire involves the
women’s physical and emotional degradation. The lightning in the films is harsh
and clinical. Pubic hair is shaved off to give the women the look of young
girls or rubber dolls. Porn, which advertises itself as sex, is a bizarre,
bleached pantomime of sex. The acts onscreen are beyond human endurance. The
scenarios are absurd. The manicured and groomed bodies, the huge artificial
breasts, the pouting oversized lips, the erections that never go down, and the
sculpted bodies are unreal. Makeup and production mask blemishes. There are no
beads of sweat, no wrinkle lines, no human imperfections. Sex is reduced to a
narrow spectrum of sterilized dimensions. It does not include the dank smell of
human bodies, the thump of a pulse, taste, breath—or tenderness. Those in films
are puppets, packaged female commodities. They have no honest emotion, are
devoid of authentic human beauty, and resemble plastic. Pornography does not
promote sex, if one defines sex as a shared act between two partners. It
promotes masturbation. It promotes the solitary auto-arousal that precludes
intimacy and love. Pornography is about getting yourself off at someone else’s
expense.”
―
Chris Hedges, Empire of Illusion: The End of Literacy and the Triumph of
Spectacle
“How
did sex come to be thought of as dirty in the first place? God must have been a
Republican. ”
―
Will Durst
“If
she did experience sex--or something close to it--in high school, I'm sure it
would have been less out of sexual desire or love than literary curiosity.”
―
Haruki Murakami, Sputnik Sweetheart
“I
never asked my mother where babies came from but I remember clearly the day she
volunteered the information....my mother called me to set the table for dinner.
She sat me down in the kitchen, and under the classic caveat of 'loving each
other very, very much,' explained that when a man and a woman hug tightly, the
man plants a seed in the woman. The seed grows into a baby. Then she sent me to
the pantry to get placemats. As a direct result of this conversation, I
wouldn't hug my father for two months.”
―
Sloane Crosley, I Was Told There'd Be Cake: Essays
“Much
healing can occur through the sexual act with a person you love and trust if
the two of you can stay with each other during your most vulnerable moments.
You enter into a sacred space, this unknown territory, from which you’ll emerge
into new and unexpected states of being.”
―
Alexandra Katehakis, Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in
Recovery from Sex Addiction
“It's
all overrated, man. Sex is only a great thing if you're not getting any.”
―
Charles Bukowski
“Reva
often spoke about 'settling down.' That sounded like death to me.
'I'd
rather be alone than anybody's live-in prostitute,' I said to Reva.”
―
Ottessa Moshfegh, My Year of Rest and Relaxation
“There's
a difference between sexuality and sex. I used sex to get what I wanted. Sex is
just an act. Sexuality is a sincere expression of desire and pleasure.”
―
Taylor Jenkins Reid, The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo
“my
child, if you want to have a beautiful and happy life... 2 things you need...
learn the art of love and practice it with your beloved one.”
―
Carlos Barrios
“Fuck
your manners."
"You
don't have to settle for just my manners.”
―
Nenia Campbell, Terrorscape
“Love
is not necessary for sex.”
―
Patricia Briggs, Dragon Blood
“Some
women do not masturbate for pleasure; they masturbate to make a political
statement: to remind us that women do not really need men (or at least not as
much and as frequently as every single male chauvinist and every single
misogynist believes).”
―
Mokokoma Mokhonoana, On Masturbation: A Satirical Essay
“The
paper does not provide the exact number of penises eaten by ducks, but the
author says there have been enough over the years to prompt the coining of a
popular saying: 'I better get home or the ducks will have something to eat.”
―
Mary Roach, Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex
“Life
is like sex. It’s not always good, but its always worth trying.”
―
Pamela Anderson
“Saturday
12 July 1823 [Halifax]
Could
not sleep last night. Dozing, hot & disturbed ... a violent longing for a
female companion came over me. Never remember feeling it so painfully before
... It was absolute pain to me.”
―
Anne Lister
“Here's
the thing: this eel spends its entire life trying to find a home, and what do
you think women have inside them? Caves, where the eels like to live...when
they find a cave they like, the wriggle around inside it for a while to be sure
that...well, to be sure it's a nice cave, I suppose. And when they've made up
their minds that it's comfortable, they mark the cave as their territory...by
spitting.”
―
Arthur Golden, Memoirs of a Geisha
“Sex
is more exciting on the screen and between the pages than between the sheets”
―
Andy Warhol
“It's
time to make love, douse the glim; The fireflies twinkle and dim; The stars
lean together Like birds of a feather, And the loin lies down with the limb.”
―
Conrad Aiken
“No
man can be really free in bed with a woman who is not.”
―
Nancy Friday, My Secret Garden: Women's Sexual Fantasies
“We
fell into each other’s arms and kissed like we were coming up for air after
being underwater for days. The melding of our mouths was sweeter than oxygen.
We took huge, deep gulps of each other as we struggled with worldly constraints
like clothing and gravity, seeking to transcend it all in our coming together.”
―
Emme Rollins, Dear Rockstar
“Stop
opening yourself up to this womanizer.
He doesn't deserve to know a freaking thing about you," she
chastised herself.”
―
Sharon Carter, Love Auction: Too Risky to Love Again
