Fathers Quotes - Parenting isn't something you do

 

Fathers Quotes - Parenting isn't something you do 

“The psychological absence of fathers can be nearly as devastating as physical absence. When fathers are alive but not a predictable presence actively participating in their daughter's lives the relationship becomes a permanent "maybe.”

― Victoria Secunda, Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life

 

“If there’s one thing I regret it’s not having told my father how much I admired and loved him. My only gesture of affection was a quick kiss on the forehead two days before he died. The kiss tasted like sugar and I felt like a thief who furtively stole something that no longer belong to anybody. Why do we hide our feelings? Out of cowardice? Out of egotism? With a mother it’s different: we cover her with flowers, gifts and sweet phrases. What is it that prevents us from affectionately confronting our father and telling him, face to face, how much we love or admire him? On the other hand, why do we curse him under our breath when he puts us in our place? Why do we react with wickedness and not affection when the occasion presents itself? Why are we brave with taunts and cowards with affection? Why did I never tell my father these things but I tell them to you, who are probably too young to understand them yet? One night I wanted to speak to my father ion his room but found him asleep. As I quietly began to leave the room, I heard my sleeping father, in a desperate voice, say: “No, papa, no!” What strange, agitated dream was my father experiencing with his father? And if one thing caught my attention, beyond the enigma of the dream, was that my father was seventy-eight years old at that time and my grandfather had been dead for at least a quarter of a century. Does a man have to die to speak to his father?”

― Juan Gabriel Vásquez, La forma de las ruinas

 

“The true test of a father’s legacy is that it rests in every life except his own, for to leave a true legacy we must divest ourselves of everything so that the investment in our families can be everything.”

― Craig D. Lounsbrough

 

“When fathers are lovingly involved with their daughters from birth, the daughters reap the benefits all their lives. Daughters who had fathers they could count on are the most likely to be drawn to men who treat them well, to see their lovers as dependable people who won't suddenly disappear, and to be consistently orgasmic.”

― Victoria Secunda, Women And Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man In Your Life

 

“But many more daughters of distant fathers are unable to reach orgasm, or achieve it with consistency with any man. Indeed these daughters have the most trouble in bed: for them, affection and arousal are synonymous with rejection.”

― Victoria Secunda, Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life

 

“We were a religious sect consisting of two people, and now half the congregation was gone. There would be no closure, no healing. I would simply adjust myself to a new and severely depleted reality. The world would come to an end, as it always does, one world at a time.”

― James Marcus

 

“Parenting isn't something you do. It's who you are. You are a mother. You are a father.”

― Mandi Hart, Parenting with Courage: Shaping Lives, Leaving a Legacy

 

“The measure of a man is determined by the distance between his knees and the ground. The less the distance, the greater the man.”

― Craig D. Lounsbrough

 

“For all children, mothers are their first love, their first acquaintance with intimacy, touch, warmth, tenderness, sustenance. Infancy is a conspiracy between mothers and their babies, a bond that fathers can only helplessly witness, denied the profound pleasure and pain of giving birth.”

― Victoria Secunda, Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life

 

“Idealizing Daddy is grand when you're five; it's crippling when you're twenty-five or thirty-five. For if you still believe in Daddy's miracles, you may not believe that you can make your own dreams come true. Worse, you may not even be able to formulate them without his guidance,”

― Victoria Secunda, Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life

 

“What kind of world did our fathers abandon us to?”

― Andrew Smith

 

“There should be some drug for fathers of teenage girls. Something that calmed your heart so it didn't practically rip through your chest. Something that could soothe the fury your daughter could inspire, the absolute terror that something unspeakable would happen to her, the almost murderous sense of protection. Something that would give you the words to tell her that no one would ever love her as much as dear old dad, and if she just listened to him, she'd have a much easier time of things and be safe from boys who ruined her life.”

― Kristan Higgins, Until There Was You

 

“I always thought I hated the bastard, but knowing that I'm never going to get the chance to tell him how much I hated him breaks my heart.”

― Sarra Manning, The Rise and Fall of Becky Sharp

 

“Let me tell you youngins something. See yawl are half-baked like your fathers. The first mistake yawl made was coming to my place of business without hesitation. You don’t come in your enemy's territory because obviously I have shit set up to defend myself. Second, I’ll give yawl credit for doing something halfway smart. I know you two would have some of your own people in here posing as club goers, but I have people checked at the door. So, your men have been disarmed. Third you can’t make business moves with me, so I suggest you two drop this shit. Yawl quest for revenge is admirable but it’s over. I’ll let the other shit yawl have done to us slide as a fair pay for what we did to your fathers.” - Cyrus”

― Shantel Williams, Love Songs and Bullets

 

“I had found I could best be a good daughter by making sure my father never guessed what to forbid.”

― Jackie French, Ophelia: Queen of Denmark

 

“You've given me a bad name

I'll only make worse.”

― Ari Banias, Anybody: Poems

 

“Once upon a time a daddy believed that a mysterious light was more than a mysterious light, that a meteor was more than a meteor. He believed in probabilities and prophecies, in wild turkeys and girls wearing headbands in the rain. He believed in the power and the glory of a quartet of cotton swabs, believed he'd glimpsed the future in a minivan bumper.

 

Dear, you would never believe all the silly things this silly daddy believed.

 

But he was not crazy because he believed what he'd seen. And what he'd seen, he believed, was you.”

― B.J. Hollars, This is Only a Test

 

“Their father - her ex-husband - had relinquished all responsibility for them when the marriage ended: it almost gave him pleasure, Lawrence believed, to see them suffer, partly because their suffering dramatized his own - as bullies enjoy seeing their own fear in their victims - and partly because it was a sure-fire way of punishing (her)”

― Rachel Cusk, Transit

 

“As I liked him less and less I became more and more like him. I felt trapped, didn't care for myself.”

― Geoffrey Wolff, The Duke of Deception: Memories of My Father

 

“The future? Like the past, like the present. Little girls who lose their fathers cry all their lives. Hard to blame Edgar for her tears: no doubt she makes Edgar the cause of them. He says so often enough. Mona and Minne shall not lose their father, she is determined on it. She will cry now and for ever, so that Minnie and Mona can grow up to laugh — though no doubt their laughter, as they look back, will be tinged with pity, at best, and derision, at worst, for a mother who lives as theirs did. Minnie and Mona, saved from understanding. ("The Man With No Eyes")”

― Fay Weldon, Mischief: Fay Weldon Selects Her Best Short Stories

 

“If financial gain remains our main motive then we can be certain that rich fathers will leave behind poor sons!”

― Gunther Hauk, Toward Saving the Honeybee