Fathers
Quotes - The good father does not have to be perfect
“One
of the biggest things that hold men back from being the fathers, husbands, and
leaders they are meant to be is that we are often unfit, unhealthy, or
otherwise limping along.”
―
Josh Hatcher
“You
do remember what my father said, right? The entire revolution came about
because of something that happened between him and your father, Joichiro Saiba!
I...
I just don't understand anymore. It's all so confusing. It feels like the one
thing I had left to believe in is... is falling apart around me..."
"Well...
I did get that something big went down years ago, yeah. But just because
something happened way in the past doesn't mean I'm going to change what I'm
doing now.
That
was then, and this is now. And right now...
...
there's stuff going on I'm not sure I agree with.
So
I'm gonna do something about it. That's all.”
―
Yuto Tsukuda, 食戟のソーマ 18
[Shokugeki no Souma 18]
“But my father had already
removed his hand from his pocket, and everyone could see the scrap of newspaper
into which he proceeded to blow his nose. Any kind of excitement provoked
powerful disturbances in his metabolism and ample secretions of fluids. If he
got out of that scramble alive, the first thing he would do would be to go
behind a bush and urinate, breaking wind vigorously, I was sure of that.”
― Danilo Kiš, Garden,
Ashes
“The good father does not
have to be perfect. Rather, he has to be good enough to help his daughter to
become a woman who is reasonably self-confident, self-sufficient, and free of
crippling self-doubt, and to feel at ease in the company of men.”
― Victoria Secunda,
Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in
Your Life
“A good father loves his
daughter with no strings attached. He is available. He is both strong and
tender. Being big and strong doesn't mean being separate from one's feelings;
to the contrary, it means being very much in touch with them. Women who experienced
fathers like that know that a strong man can cry, and that a man who can cry
can also be very strong.”
― Marlin S. Potash
“When he died I had been away
from home for a little over a year. In that year I had had time to become aware
of the meaning of all my father’s bitter warnings, had discovered the secret of
his proudly pursed lips and rigid carriage: I had discovered the weight of
white people in the world. I saw that this had been for my ancestors and now
would be for me an awful thing to live with and that the bitterness which had
helped to kill my father could also kill me.”
― James Baldwin, Notes
of a Native Son
“Was Father getting sadder,
or was she just getting old enough to see it?”
― S.D. Smith, The
Green Ember
“The next day, the cycle
starts again. We’re set out like decorative plates in this cavernous
architecture, and such a craggy dining hall it is. Not exactly a Claude Monet
cottage, more of a Medieval bastion—a vestige of Roman conquests. It still
moans with the rickety sounds of age. I can almost hear the grumblings of
ancient inhabitants.”
― Michael Benzehabe
“MY FATHER
If I
have to write a poem about my father
it
has to be about integrity
and
kindness —
the
selfless kind of kindness
that
is so very rare
I am
sure there will be many people
living
somewhere who must be as kind as him
but
what I mean to say is
I
have not met one yet
and
when it comes to helping others
he
always helps too much
and
as the saying goes —
help
someone, you earn a friend.
help
someone too much,
you
make an enemy. —
so
you know the gist of what
I’m
trying to say here
anyways
I was talking about the
poem
about my father
it
has to be about
passion
and
hard work
because
you see
you
cannot separate these
things
from him
they
are part of him as his two eyes and
two
hands and his heart and his soul
and
his whole being
and
you cannot separate
wind
and waves
or
living and the universe
or
earth and heavens
and
although he never got any
award
from bureaucracy
the
students he taught ages ago
still
touch his feet and some
of
them are the people
you
have to make
an
appointment to meet even if
it
is for two minutes of their time
and
that’s a reward for him
bigger
than any other that
some
of his colleagues got
for
their flattery
and
also I have to write about
reliability
as well
because
you see
as
the sun always rises
and
the snowflakes are always six-folds
and
the spring always comes
and
the petals of a sunflower and every flower
follows
the golden ratio of symmetry
my
father never fails to
keep
his promise
I
have to mention the rage as well
that
he always carries inside him
like
a burning fire
for
wrongdoings
for
injustice
and
now
he
carries a bitterness too
for
people
who
used him good
and
discarded
as
it always happens with every good man
in
our world of humans
and
you must be thinking he has
learned
his lessons well
you
go to him —
it
does not matter who you are
if
he knows you
or
you are a stranger from
other
side of the world —
and
ask for his help
he
will be happy to do so
as
you must know
people
never
change
not
their soul in any case.”
― Neena H. Brar
“I am alive, I have my own
children and with them I have tried to achieve only one aim: that they
shouldn’t be afraid of their father.
They
aren’t. I know that.
When
I enter a room, they don’t cringe, they don't look down at the floor, they
don’t dart off as soon as they glimpse an opportunity, no, if they look at me,
it is not a look of indifference, and if there is anyone I am happy to be
ignored by it is them. If there is anyone I am happy to be taken for granted
by, it is them. And should they have completely forgotten I was there when they
turn forty themselves, I will thank them and take a bow and accept the
bouquets.”
― Karl Ove Knausgård,
Min kamp 3
“It isn't just the physical
presence of the father that matters- it's his engagement and involvement. An
emotionally remote or rejecting or actively punitive father leads to girls'
feeling pretty apprehensive around men.”
― Victoria Secunda,
Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in
Your Life
“I only half realised at the
time how lucky I was. I had a demanding, round-the-clock job, and yet I had the
company of my children at the same time. So many men work so hard to keep the
home going that they lose touch with the families who are at the heart of it,
but it never happened to me. Both Jimmy and Rosie, until they went to school,
spent most of their time with me round the farms.”
― James Herriot, All
Things Wise and Wonderful / The Lord God Made Them All
